This site is about YOU – more specifically, about your search for a soul-mate. I am a firm believer that there really are Plenty of Fish (number 2 on the list of top dating sites). However, if you aren’t getting many nibbles or the fish you’re catching are not really keepers, then perhaps it’s time to dip your pole into a different sea. (I’m talking about a fishing pole, but I know what you’re thinking!)
One of the most common interracial pairings is Western man and Asian woman. The attraction is very real, and for good reason. After all, opposites attract. If you are about to give up on finding Miss Right, perhaps it is time you went looking for Miss Wong! Here are a few pointers to help you in your search for marital bliss.
Find your better half and become a better man.
Be serious. Chinese women do not like players either. Their culture is intensely marriage and family oriented.
Be stable. You don’t have to be rich (although it helps), but most Chinese women want to know if you own a house and a car.
Be willing to stretch a little. By this I mean you should be interested in Chinese culture and language. The good news is that the Internet makes it possible to become a scholar overnight. Well, not exactly, but close.
Even if you don’t speak a word of Mandarin and she speaks no English, translation software can help you communicate. Check out babelfish.com. Just remember the K.I.S.S. Principle, however. Keep It Short and Simple!
Now that we’ve checked you out, it’s time to check her out! A quick Google search for “China Bride” or “Asian Dating” will yield a goldmine of results. Remember that most of these sites require a fee at some point. Do your research before you pull out the plastic.
Be indirect. This is a tough one for us Americans. Naughty talk will come eventually, but don’t push it. Be very, very patient.
Be ready to travel. China is a fantastic country. Even if you’re not ready to pop the question, you should at least take a look at her side of the world. And by the way, culture shock is a very, very real thing; you should carefully consider where you both will live once the knot is tied.
China is changing.
When I first arrived in China in August of 2004, it was pretty near impossible to find a decent cup of coffee or drinkable bottle of wine. Now, most every city neighborhood has a wine shop, a coffee bar or both. Of course, I live in a big city with a large ex-pat population. In the more rural areas of China you may find life more challenging. That is not necessarily a bad thing. After all, patience is a virtue and will serve you well in any relationship.
If I can find happiness, you can too!
My Chinese wife and I are an unlikely-looking couple. She is three fourths my height, one third my weight and half my age. She has long black hair and I have no hair at all. She is beautiful and I am, well… not beautiful. We also have a lovely little daughter who is truly a joy.
If I had to name one thing that makes our relationship work, I would have to say “laughter.” Being from totally different cultural and language backgrounds, we often have miscommunication and misunderstanding in our daily living. These little problems, instead of driving a wedge between us, actually serve to bring us closer together because of the added ingredient of laughter. As you can imagine, our little daughter has an amazing sense of humor as well.
Thanks for stopping by.
This blog is a work in progress – as are people and relationships. I would enjoy hearing from you if you have any comments or suggestions about this site. I would especially love to hear the experiences of other mixed couples. If you have something to share, please fill out and send me the contact form below.
Thanks and best wishes for your happy relationship!